I was struggling with a topic for this Wednesday’s Basilique Chat Salon – not from a lack of ideas – I’ve got a queue of them. Rather, none of them was working for me. I just couldn’t commit. I was *this* close to saying “Oh, sod it, if it’s not working for you, then just don’t do it!” And then, like a life saver, I received this message from Marie Forleo:
You said yes to a major project with your full heart. You felt good. Excited. Ready to dive in. This is something you believe in, and the other folks involved are thrilled to have you on board.
A bit of time goes by and your life takes a turn.
It’s all good, but things are different now. Less time, less bandwidth. The truth is you stress even thinking about this project and what it will take to pull it off.
But, you already said yes. You gave your word. People are counting on you (lots of them) and you pride yourself on being someone who honors commitments, no matter what.
Enter a stormy, emotional mix of guilt, inadequacy, panic, and fear. There’s the fear of looking weak, the fear of disappointing others, and the fear of damaging your reputation. Do you suck it up and try harder, or, do you call it quits?
Yes Marie! Well spotted! How did you know??? Seriously, her timing can be impeccable. It’s true, sometimes she can smell what the Rock is cooking…
I tend to be reasonably decisive. It’s a trait I like about myself. However, I’m having trouble deciding on pretty much anything right now. Mainly because I’m preoccupied with another, significant commitment, which I’m trying to sort out, and am hating the prospect of doing so because every outcome I can imagine is as attractive as bubblegum pink lipstick on… well, anyone. The problem is… I also greatly value reliability, in others, and even more so in myself.
So yes, Marie – B.I.N.G.O.! And thank you, for a great idea for our next Basilique Chat Salon:
How do you treat commitments in Second Life? Is your handshake worth a flakey pastry? Or is your word your ironclad bond?
In a world with few repercussions, all too short memories, and hardly noticeable reputations, what is the nature of commitments in Second Life? Why do so many of them crumble? How do great things that rely on big commitments even happen? How do commitments in Second Life compare with commitments in real life? Do they differ, or is the way we do anything the way we do everything? Should we expect people to honour their commitments in here at all? Or, when real life can rip apart our best laid plans in an instant, are we just expecting too much?
Join me this Wednesday, May 21st at 1PM for what I hope will be another illuminating and thought-provoking conversation at the Basilique Chat Salon. As always, if you can’t attend, inundate me with your opinions on this topic below.
Feature Photo Credit: Prairie Kawashima – check out more of her amazing work on her Flickr